Melt butter in small saucepan
Add the ginger, garlic, cumin, and curry paste and let saute for 30 seconds
Add shrimp paste and let simmer for about 30 seconds
Add fish sauce and bring to a simmer
Add coconut milk and let simmer until thick and reduced
Cook wings: bbq or broil on medium high, putting wings on a rack on a baking sheet on the rack set on the second highest level (3-4" from top) for 15-20 minutes, flip over, cook until crispy (approx 40 minutes total). Then remove from oven, toss in some of the sauce.
Give a squeeze of lime juice over wings and serve.